Two Year Update on The Quest
It's been two years since I started this chapter of my life!
It has already been two years since I began The Quest back in August 2021! If you don’t know what The Quest is and are curious to learn, I recommend reading my original post about it here.
Life Updates
It would be an understatement to say that a lot has happened in my life over the past two years. With all of these rapid and exciting changes taking place, I fell out of the habit of going out every single weekend like I used to. There was a stretch that lasted almost a year where I only went out maybe a handful of times total. I always knew I would be back at it eventually, though. I still have a lot of unfinished business.
I started going out consistently again this past March. I’m still living in Las Vegas, and I intend to remain here for at least a couple more years most likely.
Substack Updates
I can’t write about every time I go out anymore. It is honestly far too time-consuming, plus not every night contains a story worth telling. Instead, I’m only going to write about the stories that are worth telling, and probably in more of a narrative format rather than a field report format going forward. I already have a few stories from some of my more eventful nights in mind that I’d like to write about soon.
It can be tough to write about this stuff given how many people I have now met in real life through this online identity. Talking about the most vulnerable and difficult aspects of my life was a lot easier when I was 100% anonymous! At the same time, I’ve now had several people tell me in person (not to mention DMs) that they have found a lot of value in this substack, so I don’t want to give up on it.
I am also considering writing about more than just my experiences when I go out. I have some ideas about some of the broader issues surrounding gender, dating, and sex that I may want to write about in the future.
I have also completed Verbal Game Academy, the course I have mentioned many times before. I plan on writing an in-depth review of it at some point. Perhaps I will review other relevant content that I come across as well.
Goals Revisited
Here are the four goals (plus a fifth I added later) that were described in my original post when I started this all.
I want to be able to participate in hookup culture, something I have never done before
Status: ❓IN PROGRESS
This would require me to have sex with someone I just met. And no, paying for it wouldn’t count. I have not gotten all the way across the finish line on this yet, though I keep getting closer and closer. So clearly, I have not yet completed this goal.
I want to be able to ask a woman out on a date (or at least get her phone number) who I have just met in person
Status: ✅ COMPLETE
Really what I was getting at here was the idea of cold approach, but I was not familiar with that term when I first started out. After having now done this more times than I could possibly keep track of, I can say without a shadow of a doubt that I have completed this goal.
I want to give online dating a serious try
Status:❓IN PROGRESS
I haven’t even really started on this one. My thinking has been that once I get into really good shape I will start building up a portfolio of pictures for my profile. My progress on my personal fitness has been quite inconsistent, and I still have a long way to go before I would consider myself to be in really good shape. So I have not yet completed this goal, nor am I currently close to completing it.
I want to be in polyamorous romantic relationships
Status:❓ IN PROGRESS
This one is a little tricky. I am still in a polyamorous relationship with my vibecamp lover (the future of which is currently a bit uncertain, but that is a discussion for another post). However, it’s just the one relationship, and I definitely specified relationships (plural) when I first wrote out this goal. I have a primary relationship, but no secondaries, tertiaries, friends with benefits, side chicks, or whatever other term you want to use. So this goal is not complete yet.
I also added a fifth goal back in January 2022: visa's do 100 things. That will mean 100 Nights Out. As of the time I am writing this, I have done 63. So I’m more than halfway there on this one, but I still have a long way to go.
Status:❓ IN PROGRESS
So in summary, out of the five goals of The Quest, only one of them is actually complete! When it is put that way it sounds like I haven’t been making much progress, but really I have been, it’s just progress that is hard to measure with respect to these specific goals.
Wingmen
A few months back I joined a groupchat of guys in the Las Vegas area with similar goals. We go out to the clubs virtually every weekend. Doing “game” (as the kids call it) with wingmen has taken a bit of adjustment, but overall it has been helpful for my progress. It has also been good for my social life in general, as I already feel that a few of these guys have become close friends of mine.
So I’m no longer going at it alone 98% of the time like I used to. I still end up doing game alone once in a while, but the majority of the time I’m at the club with at least one wingman now.
The Future
In short, I’m not giving up. In fact, I need to be putting even more time and effort into these goals than I have been up to this point. I want to look back on this era of my life and not feel the same pangs of regret that I feel when I look back on my late teens and early twenties, just like I talked about when I first started down this path. That would be devastating. I cannot allow that to happen, which means I must not give up.
This isn’t over. Not even close.
